Instead of new resolutions for a new year, what if we came up with new conversations for a new year?
Generally, resolutions are declarations of what we will or will not do in the coming year. And more often than not, they’re relatively empty declarations with nothing to support them, including our own memories.
How long does it take before we even forget what we resolved? Not very.
And how long does it take before we realize that with no support from other people in our lives, it’s not convenient and hardly possible to fulfill on these declarations?
In usually less than a month, we can see the futility of our resolutions.
If we instead came up with new conversations, they include other people being in the mix. Conversations require getting out of our heads and engaged in an exchange of thoughts and ideas with others.
A conversation involves two or more people. So, if we take on conversations rather than resolutions, whatever we come up with for this New Year involves more than just ourselves.
We’d be talking about what we’re committed to with other folks in our lives. We’d be sharing our new conversations. and if we’re truly interested in fruition, we’d be sharing those conversations with many others and sharing them often.
Once is not enough.
We could generate conversations that inspire us, reflect who we are or want to be, motivate us to do something differently than the same old thing we’ve been doing day after day forever and ever.
We could choose conversations that create possibilities – a future that would be worth getting up for every morning, ready to jump into the day.
Rather than a resolution “I’m going to write my book this year,” we could create a conversation instead that goes something like this:
“I have something exciting to share with the world. I have everything I need to make that happen this year.
“I’m smart enough, accomplished enough, creative enough and good enough to do that and the people in my life believe in my abilities.”
We would have that conversation with people all around us. And we would remind them over and over what it is we’re working on.
Next we would figure out what actions are needed and get busy.
Rather than a resolution “I’m going to lose weight and get fit this year,” we could create a conversation like:
“My body is my temple and is sacred to me. Everything I do is in service of ensuring that temple is in the best possible condition and ready to support me to a ripe old age.
“I’m strong enough, energetic enough, young enough and knowledgeable enough to eat the appropriate food, get sufficient exercise, and nourish my psyche.”
We’d share that conversation with others and create a detailed plan for making it happen.
These are just a couple of examples. We could take anything we want change about ourselves and remake it from a resolution to an actual conversation.
Resolutions are great. And it’s the tradition as we start new beginnings.
After all personal growth is important to us; it's what keeps us going.
But if we're really interested in results and new opportunities in our lives, we might just want to explore what new conversations could provide.